I know what you mean! I can't, for example, totally avoid my social anxiety online. Bleh! But it's good to see you in my circle here, and I hope you find it comfy on Dreamwidth. It's a bit more quiet than LJ, which I actually kinda like, and the active comms are super friendly. There seems to be a very cooperative, largely wank-free culture here thus far.

Here are some other comms that may help you feel settled:

lj_refugees - not quite as active as it has been during the big exodus, but still has folks discussing differences and how to get things done.
the_dw_herald - news digest for DW related postings & stuff
dw_nifty - fun, helpful tips for using DW
dreamwidthlayouts - a place to find other user created layouts